2. SHENI HAMID/Londra

  3. What does confıdence mean?


Avrupa ve Londra Temsilcisi
Yazarın Tüm Yazıları >

What does confıdence mean?


‘Who they fear when there is no cause for fear; as well as who they  do not fear when they ought to fear, both enter the downward path.’ declared Buddha timelessly.‘The challenges are not to be feared, in other words, but to be understood, and this can only be accomplished by penetrating beyond traditional categories of ‘Right and Wrong’’. So this general approach towards handling the matters also helps to shape the person’s state of confidence as well. 


Hence to eliminate the prejudicial enforcements of the idea of ‘right and wrong’ we really need is to find a way of retaining self-awareness then essentially, to establish solid, also well balanced confidence within ourselves. Subsequently at that crucial point we will be able to adjust our personal judgements, when dealing with those fear causing challenges in life.


According to Buddhist philosophy there are 88 human weaknesses that plays a huge role in shaping human’s self-confidence as well as the behaviour -which these weaknesses are also acknowledged as sins in this particular Buddhist doctrine-.  For instance, this effective guideline highlights that, ‘All that we are is the result of what we have thought: All that we are is founded on our thoughts and formed of our thoughts. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought of happiness, this will pursue him like his own shadow and will never leave him in despair’.




So What does ‘State of Confidence’ Mean?..


Confidence could be described as a ‘state of being assured and the supposed aspect is correct or the one’s chosen course of action is the best or most effective’.


Furthermore, self-confidence is having confidence in oneself but this does not necessarily suggest a 'self-belief' or a belief in one's ability to succeed. Then in addition, arrogance or hubris in this comparison, is having unjust confidence, even believing that something or someone is talented to take actions; or right in everything they do -when even while they are not.


On the other hand, overconfidence or presumptuousness is an excessive belief in someone (or something) towards succeeding, without any regard for failure.


Moreover, every individual could possibly have confidence in other people or in some potencies that appearing beyond their control. For instance, one might have confidence in the law regulators which thus could protect them; or might have confidence that a favourite football team will win a game. Similarly,  faith and trust are accepted as the substitutes of confidence when they’re being used in this sense.


Some psychologists suggest that the confidence bias can be explained as ‘we mix various true and false evidences during our experiences in life and then we store them into our memories. So the confidence bias result because we come across the situations, then we "look inside our own memory" to evaluate our confidence and eventually find evidences which become conservative due to mixing of extreme values during this retrieval.




What Affects the One’s Confidence?


Some individuals, especially if they maintain a harsh inner critic, could be having lack of confidence, therefore still might find that in some instances, they are actually confident.


A strange or unfamiliar environment; new technology or tasks; unappropriated timing; incoherent relationships with others; family and personal upbringing; experiences; cultural differences, traditions, habits; the educational level differences; coming from diverse social circumstances; the potency of financial situations; physical appearance, personal capabilities, gender differences, geographical differences; religious and political impacts; psychological state of fears, phobias, anxiety, depression, sexual frustrations, obsessions, psychosomatic and somatic related stress, alcohol and drug dependency; disabilities; personal believes, personality and repressed fixations… are could be indicated as the most common affects that playing huge role in the individual’s state of confidence and behaviour altogether.




In addition, to continue with Buddha’s some more (of those) confidence shattering 88 sins…


For instance according to the Buddha’s doctrine the notion of  ‘age’ itself, plays a massive role in many people’s confidence as well. To continue with the selection of this assurance  bearing set of guidelines: Non vigilance, unrestricted mind, senselessness, foolishness, not gaining wisdom, speaking empty words, evil conduct, ego or not knowing the self, not enjoying the world, being unpleasant, being overcome by anger, not respecting the law and being undisciplined, lying, being greedy, being envious, being wicked, being fulfilled with harmful desires, ignorance, lust … are all accepted as the main impacts shaping many people’s state of nature after all.


Besides, having a miscellaneous personality, delusions, not following the path of purity, going after short lived pleasures, carelessness, not keeping our given promises, wavering the obedience to discipline, unreasonable doubt, being overcome by fierce; attachment, delusion, refusing to understand, ill will, restlessness are also included in Buddha’s doctrine which regards to eighty eight sins mentioned above.


And the advice from this suggestions ultimately comes is ‘gaining faith, attention, countless energy, meditation and wisdom’ will help everybody to attain a strong and confident personality.




Overconfidence or Ignorance?


The overconfidence effect is a well-established prejudice in which someone's subjective confidence in their judgments is reliably greater than their objective accuracy, especially when confidence is relatively high.


Therefore, confirmation bias is the tendency of people to favour information that confirms their beliefs or hypotheses. People display this bias when they gather or remember information selectively, or when they interpret it in a biased way. This impact becomes stronger for emotionally charged issues and for deeply entrenched beliefs. In fact many people also tend to interpret ambiguous evidence towards supporting their existing position.


A series of experiments in the 1960s suggested that people are biased towards confirming their existing beliefs. Later work re-interpreted these results as a tendency to test ideas in a one-sided way, focusing on one possibility and ignoring alternatives. In certain situations, this tendency can create preferences in individual’s personal conclusions. Explanations for the observed favouritism include wishful thinking and the limited human capacity to process information. Another explanation is that people show confirmation bias because they are weighing up the costs of being wrong, rather than investigating in a neutral, scientific way.


In summary, confirmation biases contribute to overconfidence in personal beliefs and can maintain or strengthen this beliefs in the face of contrary evidence.


Going forward, can be indicated that Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias which can manifest in one of two ways:


•              Unskilled individuals suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly rating their ability much higher than is accurate. This bias is attributed to a metacognitive inability of the unskilled to recognize their ineptitude.


•              Those persons to whom a skill or set of skills come easily may find themselves with weak self-confidence, as they may falsely assume that others have an equivalent understanding.


David Dunning and Justin Kruger of Cornell University proposed that, for a given skill, incompetent people will: Tend to overestimate their own level of skill; fail to recognize genuine skill in others; fail to recognize the extremity of their inadequacy; recognize and acknowledge their own previous lack of skill, if they are exposed to training for that skill.




Not too Much and Not too Little…


Early Confucian tradition does advise to everyone ‘to do the proper thing at the proper time; to balance between maintaining existing norms, to perpetuate an ethical social fabric and then violate them in order to accomplish ethical good’. This suggestion guru cultivates in people virtues that include ethical judgment about when the above advise must be adapted in light of situational contexts.


In Confucianism, the concept of balance is closely related to the idea of mutuality and this can be translated as righteousness, though it may simply  imply about what is ethically best to do in a certain context. The term contrasts with action done out of self-interest. While pursuing one's own self-interest is not necessarily bad, one would be more better for a righteous person, if one's life was based upon following a path designed to enhance the greater good. So the outcome suggests, to do the right thing for the right reason. Eventually the core value of the individuals will need to consist five basic virtues: Seriousness, generosity, sincerity, diligence and kindness. This are the virtues of perfectly fulfilling one's responsibilities towards others, and most often translated as "benevolence" or "humaneness" (translator Arthur Waley calls it "Goodness" and other translations that have been put forward include "authoritativeness" and "selflessness.").


Basically, Confucius's moral system was based upon empathy and understanding others, rather than divinely ordained rules. To develop one's spontaneous responses of understanding so that these could guide action instinctively, is even better than living by the rules of self-interest. Confucius asserts that virtue is a means between extremes. For example, the properly generous person gives the right amount—not too much and not too little; alike achieving the exact aura about balancing the confidence as well.




So the Plan Is…


Any little change we make in ourselves, will reward us with a gained confidence within. We should always care about who we are, what we do and where we want to be in life. Because we are unique and we are the individually distinctive essences of universe. We are exceptional, original, living-thinking-loving human beings. Ultimately, acknowledging this fact alone should be enough to provide a boost of confidence within our unique cores.




Let’s Make Confidence Happen!...         


*Get Prepared: Take stock of where you are, think about where you want to reach. Get yourself in the right mind-set for your journey and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it.


*See What You've Already Achieved: Think about your life so far and list the ten best things you've achieved in your life. Note them down and remember to look at them at every opportunity you find.


*List Your Strengths and Weaknesses: So you’ll know what to enhance and what issues you’ll have to tackle.


*Set Your Goals and Priorities in Correct Order: Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people's criticisms, carry out your plan.




So the Victors Said…


‘Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate, your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.’  (Michelle Obama)


‘We have to work on it not to shake the confidence: My Confidence doesn't come out of nowhere. It's a result of something... hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.’ (Roger Staubach)


‘Start with dreaming small dreams. If you make them too big, you get overwhelmed and you don't do anything. If you make small goals and accomplish them first, it gives you the confidence to go on to higher goals.’ (John H. Johnson)


‘Think constructively, chose wisely, be determined and commit yourself to achieve the best!’ (Sheni Hamid)




Not believing in ourselves and not establishing a single confidence within, is a crucial glitch in life... Hence, this is the 89th sin in my point of view, then this could be indicated as one of the most imperative pities after all.

Yazıların her türlü yasal sorumluluğu Yazarın kendisine aittir. Kaynak gösterilse dahi yazının tamamı özel izin alınmadan kullanılamaz. Ancak alıntılanan yazının bir bölümü, alıntılanan yazıya aktif link verilerek kullanılabilir.
Önceki ve Sonraki Yazılar


UYARI: Küfür, hakaret, rencide edici cümleler veya imalar, inançlara saldırı içeren, imla kuralları ile yazılmamış,
Türkçe karakter kullanılmayan ve büyük harflerle yazılmış yorumlar onaylanmamaktadır.